Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Is Dude not Cursed?

This is not a week to get mad at guys but sometimes I can not just help it. I got a call from one of my girlfriends last night. She called around midnight. I knew there was something wrong immediately I saw that she was the one calling. We gisted about normal stuffs for a while before she let the beans spill. She had been hood winked. Sometimes I believe it is better to be financially defrauded than to be emotionally robbed.

She knew the guy from college, they were in the same department. Though they were not friends, they said hello now and then. She and the guy hooked up sometime ago and became friendly. She told me how happy he had been when he met her again at a friend's party. Before long the guy started asking for a date, he was so persistent and looked like a fool in love that she agreed and started dating him. Few months into the relationship she realised he had been messing around with another girl, an akata. They had a quarrel and she forgave him because he promised to stop seeing the girl.

Later he started talking about living together, though she was wary of that she agreed and moved in with him.Then he started acting all crazy, staying out late, lying about everything, stealing her money,trying to use her credit cards behind her back. Neways she found out he was planning on dumping her because the akata girl he had been messing with had been threatening him with a gun whenever he couldnt give her some money to buy crack. They had another quarrel, he started throwing her stuffs out of the house and she called the cops on him.

My question was" Is his ass rotting in jail?" She said 'No,'
''why not?
'' cos of old times''

Fuck old times!! One of the guy's friends called her and told her stuffs she never believed anybody could say about another human being. She found out he had been lying about his background, saying his father has a mansion, he is being owed 800million naira by the Naija govt, when the poor man has a small shop where he sews clothes for people at Ebute Metta, all kind of craps you will never believe a 33 year old man would say. I didnt know people like that still existed.

Neways when I heard that another friend of mine got dumped by her husband of 4 years. Why? He went to England, met another lady, called my friend and told her it was over. She could send the two kids over to see him when they are older. Can you beat that? She had empited her bank account and gave him all her money before he left for England on the pretext that he got wind of some profitable business.

Why would anybody do that to another human being when this life is just too short and this world is just too small? Why do men do that? Always not satisfied with what they have?

Like that one that left his family, I am sure he is gonna come back one day maybe when the kids are getting married and wear agbada, behaving as if he was the one that trained them.

That one that was living a double life, owing people money, borrowing and stealing from other people, what kind of children does he wanna raise? My friend really rained curses on him because she actually liked him genuiely not caring whether he was from a poor family or not. What she couldnt take was the lies then the disrespect. I dont blame her though, his ass should be in jail by now. Can you imagine, she was the one feeding him, buying everything in the house be it clothes, food, talk of it.And he had nothing to pay her back with than to be fucking a crack head in a park. Na wah o.

When my friend got off the phone, I started wondering if the dude was not cursed because my friend was an opportunity for him to restructure his life. She is just too nice and generous a girl.I pray she finds the strenght to get on with her life and the heart to forgive him.

7 comments:

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

first.most dudes are cursed jare. but then so are chicks.we live in a cursd world.

Allied said...

hmmm.. The husband of 4yrs got to me... "She could send the two kids over to see him when they are older"?

Is that how life is lived?

rethots said...

Well, 'tis hi time babes stopped falling for some cock & bull stories....comm'n a guy that can't feed himself? How can he take care of a babe?? Haba, so much for hope.

Unfortunately, 'tis not that the 4yrs meant nothing to him, i doubt anything (love) ever did exist in the first place.

Short of which, Is it true that even though we feel from the onset of a relationship that something isn't right, we still go ahead with it hoping that 'twill be better?

little miss me said...

i hope she has the mind to forgive and move on with her life.what ever happened to karma?she should not worry ,his turn is coming soon.

Eyin'ju Oluwa said...

Wowww...the one that said the kids should be sent to him when they are older, my jaw dropped ni sha. Nah so? Chei.

As for the other one, your friend should go thanksgiving, good thing she found out sooner than later...

Nawa,only God...

Allied said...

UPDATE!!!!!

Sam Oracle said...

I'm sure you know that not all guys are like that.
There are guys out there that are worth loving.
It's still sad though